Story by Laide Sotunde:: NigeriaFilms
We hear about it every day, it's always in the news and they make us wonder if it's normal for any one to be gay. Some say it's devilish, others say they are psychic. The fact remains that even in a country like Nigeria, they have existed, and are existing, no matter how we try to lash them with our tongues, kick against it or criticise them.

Can you tell if a man is gay by looking at him? Some people say that you can. There is a certain way that a man stands, sits, walks and dresses that is typically considered 'gay.' Commonly, it is the flexed hand, feminine twitch in the walk, and a feminine lean (with the hip sticking out to one side) when they stand, but most times, it will be so hard to tell if a man is gay because he may not act like the above, he may just be like any other guy.

It has also been said that there is a particular look within a gay man's eyes that tells you he is homosexual. This look in the eyes is something that is very difficult to actually describe, and only some people can actually see this 'gay' look in a man's eyes.

Some people think that it's possible to tell if a man is gay by his interests. An interest in hair, make-up, and fashion are often considered as feminine or 'gay' characteristics. There are many confirmations of gay men in these professions however, not all men in these professions are gay. Some gay men have 'normal' manly jobs. Others say they can tell that a man is gay by the sound of his voice. The truth is that many gay men do have softer, higher pitched, more feminine voices. Of course, there are muscular, very masculine men with deep voices that are gay.

Is there really any way to tell? It depends on that person. If they are trying to make a point about their sexual orientation, it will be obvious. If they are not, it will probably be more difficult to tell. There are signals within the gay community that help gay men find each other. Perhaps it takes one to know one. Otherwise, some straight people have a sort of sixth sense when it comes to spotting gay men.

Here are a few signs you should be aware of to know if your partner/friend/brother/ colleague might be gay

……he loves to wear clothes that are too tight and too "trendy".

"Gay men don't need words to communicate their availability for sex 'hook ups,'" "They silently broadcast the news by showing off their lean, hard bodies in designer clothing label.

……most times, you catch him having non-verbal communication with other men, which you may find unusual -- a look, a touch or hug that lasts a little too long or has undertones of intimacy.

…..he is in possession of pornography depicting men engaged in sex acts with other men (videos, magazines, photos stored on his computer).

……when he talks, he uses a lot of feminine gestures like rolling his neck, sucks his teeth, folds his arms when he gets mad and just acts more like a lady.

These signs are not scientifically proved but they do definitely help keeping you aware and prepared, just in case.

…..Gay people hiding inside the closet are usually very vocal about their distaste and hatred for gay men. While it seems a little counter intuitive, there is a reason why they do it. Because they don't want to be caught or be suspected that they are members of the third sex, they would cover their true identity by blatantly expressing their rage against gay men. They also tend to overdo this; thus, they become harsh gay-bashers.

….Many women like him, but he doesn't care about them.

. ….He could have a girl friend or a wife but he spends more time for his male friend.

….. He tells you that you can not understand him really.

…… He feels there is nothing interesting with women.

…… He loves beauty very much. (that's why most gays are in the fashion industry).

…... He is a sensitive man.

…. He will try to show everyone that he is manly.

….. He spends much time to take care of his facial, skin, outfit, hair, fingers etc.

…..even if he has a girl friend and manages to have sex with her, he usually prefers it from the back (anal sex).

…..Buying or receiving expensive, intimate, or overly personal gifts from other men ……he keeps unusually high percentage of male friends who are gay.

Warning…..these are just LIKELY SIGNS, it is not 100% established or scientifically proved so in case you find your friends/lovers/brothers in any of these categories, hey wait, don't attack yet, a man may be like any guy next door and still be gay, and he may behave like one, while he is not!

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